7 Worst Lovemaking Mistakes
By Michael Webb
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How to Avoid the 7 Worst Lovemaking Mistakes and Spice Up Your Marriage?
It’s amazing but true! Most couples make the 7 worst lovemaking mistakes without even knowing it. Many discover with dismay that their attempts to spice up their marriage, often result in less than fulfilling experiences.
They repeat the same mistakes time and again when their intent is to improve their love life. Learn how to avoid these pitfalls and overcome these mistakes with Michael Webb.
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Are you guilty of these mistakes too? Here they are:
#1 Too shy, embarrassed or scared to talk about learning and trying new things
Ever have a what you thought was a wonderful romantic idea to heat up your love life, but worried about how your significant other might take it?
You may not believe this, but in 90% of relationships, the other party would absolutely LOVE to try something different and new. Usually they’re just as uneasy about how you might take it as you are about them – and so they never bring it out in to the open.
Geez, and you don’t need to worry about kinky stuff or other bringing another person into your relationship. That’s crazy – and the last thing you need. There’s literally hundreds of various ways to bring back the passion and spice up your love life that aren’t coarse, vulgar or dangerous and that you can be comfortable and confident with.
#2 Cajoling, or otherwise trying to convince your spouse into lovemaking
If your spouse just isn’t in the mood, trying to cajole or coerce them to have sex almost NEVER works and could result in embarrassment, resentment or anger.
On the flip side, when they’re sexually tuned in to you, their body automatically releases adrenaline and phermones. It’s the adrenaline that heightens their energy to make love (yup, even if they say they’re tired).
Gals: Want to help him get in the mood? Give him your full attention between 9 and 10 am. Of course, for best results girls, you know what to wear (or what not to!). Not only will your lingerie whet his appetite, but his hormone levels of testosterone highest at this time of day.
Gents: Want to get her “turned on”? Believe it or not women find deep passionate kisses to be one of the biggest turn-ons. Spend a bit of high quality time building up her level of arousal. And don’t ignore “her”- the one that occupies that body you love so well. Look into her eyes while you touch her or kiss her. This will increase her level of arousal. Don’t forget her neck (spots vary, but try just below and behind her ear), it will drive her wild!
#3 Being in too big a rush
In intimate relationships, people (most often men) have a tendency to neglect foreplay altogether so they can enjoy intercourse that much sooner. What if you knew that to intensify an organism foreplay is often said to be essential? Well now you know. Don’t be in too big a rush …
SLOW IT DOWN! (you know, like that song about the “slow hand” – take your time). Want to intensify it even more, tease your partner playfully.
This is where your attention is needed. When you find something that your partner really digs, (and you’ll notice) stop doing it. Pull back, then slowly move back and do it again. The more you pull back and then forward again, the more intensely they’ll want you do do it again. The more intense you can make your partner’s anticipation the more their passion will intensify. There are different games you can choose to play to heighten this affect too.
#4 Using porn or toys
When your sex life hits a rough patch, some people (you know who you are) think that a sex toy, plastic vibrating gizmo or a video will not only smooth things over, but take your sex life to new highs.
Wrong, wrong and wrong!! Outside sources as attempts to stimulate pleasure while they often have a place in your repertoire, can be dangerous and oftentimes quickly make lovemaking less than satisfying.
You don’t need me to tell you why, as you’ve probably already guessed. Who wants to look forward to a plastic thingy or some video with strangers, when they can look forward to being intimate with you … someone they have a deep connection with?
Never use a toy as the sole method of bringing pleasure. Before adding a toy as an spice element, first learn to please each other (you both have more than one body part!) in various ways.
#5 Expecting an orgasm ONLY from intercourse
Men often feel inadequate or somehow diminished if they can’t satisfy their woman sexually. What they don’t realize is that most women don’t achieve orgasm through intercourse alone.
If more men would know this simple fact, it would completely remove a tremendous amount of pressure off of men. Look, they needn’t get upset if their woman doesn’t achieve a climax. What men should focus on instead is learning new techniques, such as what is often referred to as going down on a woman, or cunnilingus.
#6 Wanting or trying to achieve a climax at the same time
Reaching an orgasm simultaneously is rarely achieved, and some say overrated. Take the pressure off of yourselves and instead focus on pleasing each other, one climax at a time, starting with the woman’s needs first.
It’s often been mentioned that once a woman achieves an orgasm, its faster and easier to bring her to a second shortly after. So hold off on pleasing yourself in various positions until she’s been completely sated. This way, you both greatly increase your chances of climaxing together.
#7 Routine, routine … (sticking to a set routine)
I know of nothing more certain to create boredom than a set routine. If you’re stuck in the routine drill of clothes off, insert A into B, and bingo it’s over – I’ll bet your desire is about over too.
Even if you’ve had the most wonderfully satisfying sexual relationship, over time if you allow yourself to get stuck in a routine, it will get boring and making love will become dull and will begin to wear on your relationship.
The BEST way to save and enhance your relationship, connection and your love life is to always have various lovemaking ideas at your finger tips.
Now you know the secret.
If you’re ready to discover a new found passion and enjoy more passionate, hot and steamy lovemaking, you’ll make certain you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques handy.
About the Author:
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500
Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up
your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and
intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit:
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