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Relationship experts often define a sexless marriage as one in which the couples engage intimately usually no more than 10 times in a given year.

Did you know that according to recent surveys in the USA, this type of relationship affects nearly 20 million couples? This may suit suit some couples just fine, but for the majority of us, this is a serious problem.

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Overcoming a Sexless Marriage

Anyone who tries to convince you that sex is not a very important part of marriage is foolish. The lack of sexual intimacy can stir up challenging emotions for one partner and usually affects both partners.

Emotions experienced are often of anger, frustration, feelings of inadequacy, bitterness, resentment and sadness. As such, a sexless marriage is particularly vulnerable to not only infidelity, but ultimately to divorce.

If you’re living in a sexless marriage, if you can determine what
some of the underlying issues are (assuming you really don’t know what they are), then you can work towards finding a solution.

The following are some of the reasons this may be happening to you:

If you’re a man:

There are a variety of reasons you may have lost interest or desire for your wife.  Some of the most common reasons why men may be creating the sexless marriage are:

• Your wife isn’t interested in trying something new or being adventurous when it comes to sex

• She really doesn’t enjoy sex

• You’re  really no longer attracted to your wife and she doesn’t turn you on

• She’s gained a lot of weight

• You’ve developed erectile dysfunction

• You’ve become bored in the relationship

• You are having an affair

If you’re a woman:

Some of your problems might be similar, but they’re often different reasons for creating a sexless marriage:

• Your husband treats you like an object – making you feel like it’s only all about sex to him

• You enjoy more tradition sex, and he wants to do things you’re not comfortable with

• Your husband has let himself go and you’re no longer attracted to him the way you were before

• You’re angry at your husband

• You’re depressed

• You have a difficult time reaching orgasm

Look, there’s many other reasons for both men and women, it’s just that these are a few of the ones that are most often reported.

OK – you’ve found yourself just co-existing with your spouse in a sexless marriage.

So – what are some of the things you can do about it?

#1 Open the lines of communication

Not talking about it’s like ignoring the huge elephant that sits between you. Continuing to tiptoe around the situation or ignore it will only result in the two of you growing further and further apart.

Sex is one of the most powerful ways for you to connect with each other, most particularly for men.

Compare this with women who are usually more comfortable talking about their true feelings and about expressing love in various ways.  In contrast, many men show love and affection via sex.

It’s important you know that the connection you have together is likely to wane or disappear altogether if you find yourself in a sexless marriage. Talking is vital to address the issue and determine the best course of action.

#2  As you communicate, find ways in which each of you can compromise

By doing this, you can discover ways that your relationship can be sexually satisfying to both of you. For example, if the problem is that one of you is more adventurous than the other, find some middle ground which is mutually satisfying to both of you.

#3 Get to the bottom of any feelings of bitterness, resentment or anger

If these emotions are resulting in a sexless marriage, you both are going to have to be willing to get to the bottom of it and work your way through these issues.  Remember you are a team.

You may need a therapist to help you. But make no mistake, letting go of hurtful or angry feelings is vital to getting your marriage back on the right track.

True intimacy is blocked and cannot occur if there is hostility. The sooner you’re able to forgive and move forward, the sooner you can once more begin to have a sexually and emotionally fulfilling relationship.

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